“LOVE” We keep listening to this word plenty of times throughout the day.. Have we focused on what love actually means? Just saying I Love you doesn’t mean two people are in love. Love is always expressed in actions rather than words.
I remember one incident when I was in college back in India around 15 years back.
It was really pleasant day of December. Cold breeze was blowing .We left our hostel and started walking towards college .It was 7:10 in the morning. Comforting sunlight chasing us through 2 story buildings along the way. We were 4 girls. Usually we leave at 7 ; but today we were late. Late not for college but to our katta where we spend a good 20 mins every day. But never mind, sometimes only 10 mins are fine too. We Stopped at our regular Tea Katta for tea. You might wonder what is Katta. So, In India Katta typically means a place where friends specially youngsters catchup and hang out and pass their leisure time. Some time really big things and decisions takes place here.
I ordered my regular Adrak chai with Rs.5 Parle-G biscuits. So did the other girls. Suddenly One boy came near and just slapped one of my friend. He murmured something kicking her on her leg and left from there murmuring again. Before we could realize what just happened, he left. World around us was literally stopped. Everyone was stunned with the horrible act that happened just between us within a few seconds. My friend started crying. It took us a long time to take her back to the room and calm her. After coming back to the senses, she picked up the phone to call him. We thought now she is going to break up with him. We were very happy with her decision. But what we actually heard was Sorry .We couldn’t believe that girl that day. She said sorry and started giving an explanation why we were late today. He wants to see her every morning while going to college. They don’t really talk with each other on the road in public but used to just smile at each other. Then they call each other. That’s the routine we usually witness. But today she was late because of us and he had to miss his friend’s bike to college. He was talking so loud that we could hear him outside. She was constantly listening and saying sorry with reasons. And here I was thinking about the reasons to give to our class teacher for missing the first two lectures . So, according to the girl, he loves her back to the moon. And he can’t live or start the day without seeing her and that’s why he slapped her like a demon in public.
So, here comes our topic. What is love?
There are multiple definitions of love. But no one is perfectly correct. What do you think is Love? I can tell at least what my friend and her boyfriend had was not anywhere near love. That incident made me think what love could actually feel like .
Love is respecting each other and caring for each other. Not superficial respect and care. When it comes from within for someone it is love. Then you can show respect and care to express your love.
We respect our mother, Father .We care for them. It comes very naturally for the family. So when you look for love outside, be prepared to have the same respect and care. Loving and slaving are two opposite things. Don’t expect your partner to be your slave. Don’t make them follow your rules and regulation as per your own choices.
Respecting your partner’s freedom is love
Respecting your partner’s self-esteem is love
Respecting your partner’s choice is love.
Respecting your partner’s thinking is love.
Another is care. You don’t have to show it. If you really love you care. If you care, you love. This applies to all relationships.
Caring about health, caring about their wishes, caring about their other relatives, Caring for their future etc. Isn’t it true love?
There are variety of Love languages and mediums to express love and each one of us have different. But believe me Violence and disrespect can’t be one of them.
Respect and care. Then comes showing up. If you have it, it will automatically show up to your partner. You will not have to say I Love you every time or take many efforts to show it up.
What do you think?
Let’s change the world from within. Just Give her respect , She will pay you back with an abundance of Love. Celebrate this Valentine as new chapter of Love.
